Tuesday, March 25, 2014

The Lovable Gay Landliners

Tonight I attended a “landliners” cocktail party. This is a descriptive I have come up with for gay men in their 70s and 80s who have some begrudging usage of modern communication but can’t quite part with their home phones. The hosts have a landline in Fort Lauderdale, another in Manhattan and another in Connecticut. They accept the premise of seasonality in which each of those lines hibernates while the other is awake. With some overlap. They have all also accepted the merits of email. Which they find exciting and progressive. Still, they don’t receive those messages as often as they receive the contents of the mailboxes at the ends of their various driveways. With landliners, you have to be careful in the contacting. What was the party like? Enchanting! These men were alert, engaged, clever and dazzling. They were funny in ways that made me want to know how they had spent their decades. They didn’t try to sell themselves to me. They didn’t have to. And those that liked the way I looked were honest in their expression of that without being lecherous. It is good to know that there are roads ahead that are not so bad.
Oh, and I forgot to mention that these men do not text. They don’t know how. They don’t want to learn how. They don’t miss it.

Wednesday, January 01, 2014

My Predictions For 2014

I nailed some biggies in my predictions for last year. We've got 365 days to see how I do this time around.

Here is what I see.

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

If you liked The Devil Wears Prada, you'll love INSIDE

My SFGN review of INSIDE, a steamy new novel by Charles L. Ross. 

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Should we judge Pope Francis?


I hope you non-Catholics will find my reflections helpful. Catholics often presume that everyone understands the sin/confess/sin/confess wash cycle that is part of our tradition. I never thought about it until a classmate in Rome told me that is why he converted. He said Catholic boys got to do everything and then just go to confession once a week! Anyway: Here's what I said about Pope Francis' recent comments.

Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Please support my SMARTRide


As a gay tour guide and travel writer, I have been on a bike more often this year than ever before in my 62 years. Unless the knees give out before November, I will be bicycling 165 miles from Miami to Key West  to raise money to support HIV/AIDS organizations and initiatives. 

This won't mean much without your support.

You know I'll be posting photos and writing about every juncture of the ride. Please consider cheering me on with your donation. Thanks!


Wednesday, June 19, 2013

The new garden at Cumberlinda

It's important to know what is in your dirt. Here, I wrestled with roots from the maples we just had removed and I am finding rocks and chunks of pavement from an old patio or path about eight inches below the lawn. There are submerged buckets of cement that had been used to support the metal pipes of a trellis/pergola the remains of which are stored in the rafters of the garage. I'm breaking my back doing this digging but I like it. Looking at the rest of the lot, I'm thinking of paying someone with a nice big machine to clear out the rest, but I can't bear the thought of becoming Ian McClellan in Gods and Monsters. Meanwhile, so as not to lose the season, plants (including the fig tree!) wait in pots on the deck, like patient immigrants on the planks off the boat at Ellis Island.

Friday, March 01, 2013

Let the conclave begin. My predictions.

Just published is my prediction for the papal election. My short list of 5 names, including info about which cardinals are gay and which ones would be good for women and gay Catholics.